So, you’ve considered whether you should explore therapy and decided to give it a try. Where do you start? For me, I wasn’t very familiar with the differences between counsellors, therapists, psychologists, is there a difference in the 1st place? Do they have to have certain qualifications? Should I go for subsidised options or do […]
Should I go for therapy?
It took me a really long time to take the 1st step towards therapy. I had spent the bulk of my life self-therapising and depending on the sagely comfort of my hubby and good friends. I wasn’t just getting by, I was thriving. Well, so it seemed. Successful at work, awesome social life, amazing travels… […]
No More Burying Feelings – Siblings of the Mentally Ill child.
After over 35 years of being a schizophrenic’s sister, I am only now realising what it means to be a schizophrenic’s sister. The full impact of this wasn’t even something I discovered by way of therapy. It hit me like a lightning all by myself, one fine day. Yes, my therapist knew I was the […]
Survivor Guilt – Siblings of the Special Needs / Mentally Ill child
I could never understand why I would often say I feel “guilty” when talking about my family situation. Well-meaning and practical people would respond by saying “you have done nothing wrong, you shouldn’t feel guilty.” Which I consciously agree with. And yet, the feeling creeps in, now and then. In my mind, there is an […]
When being selfish is good.
Think of yourself first. That’s the message I am getting from my therapy sessions. And as the paranoid giraffe in my head reminds me to tell you not to misunderstand my statement, I feel compelled to explain myself first before I get accused of being… selfish. (And in doing so, undermining the point of my […]
Depressed or just moody?
The other day, I was feeling out of sorts. Nothing major, just been a week of nothing much progressing on the work front. And for someone who still (mis)places her identity on her accomplishments, believe me, it can put a cloud over your head when you feel like you haven’t achieved anything for that day […]
Out of nowhere, you’re triggered and you crash…
It happens, doesn’t it? For some of us, something ridiculously minor can shift our moods south. Like, maybe, waiting for a response on a not necessarily important email. Because when enough of lack of responses to unimportant emails start adding up, you start to wonder if you’re being ignored / the person hates you / […]
5 Practical tips to get you out of the funk
This is really more for when you feel a little meh or if you’re just going about your day and then something triggers you. It’s not the solution for full-blown depression or anything major. We all get in a funk sometimes, and these are some stuff I have stashed in my pocket that help me […]
When Marketer met Writer (Hello, internal conflict!)
Hey readers… one month down the road from the launch of my blog and I just want to get something off my chest. Here it is: I am conflicted about how to handle my content. I don’t want to spend all my time thinking and writing about all the sadness in my life. Anyone who […]
It’s a SAD, sad situation.
To all my friends who are bemoaning the impending Chinese New Year “festivities”, here’s my piece to commiserate with you. It’s not specific to CNY though, it’s a delayed article about the whole SAD situation. (Actually, it’s about why some of us don’t always relish festive seasons and family gatherings, but we’ll get to that […]