Replaying conversations surrounding the topic of caregiving, it struck me that perspectives are akin to a Picasso painting—splintered on the diagonal, harsh in its geometrics, conflicted in its ethos yet coming together as one connected tapestry. I had the opportunity to share my views on the latest episode of the Mindful Dialogues podcast that asked […]
Begin Again: The Path to Better Mental Wellbeing
The hardest and easiest thing to do is to begin again. My fellow ruminators, you get me, yes? Like a creeping willow, the smallest remark or incident can wrap its tendrils around our minds, leeching its useless poison into our brains. And we nurture it for far too long. Years ago, when I discovered the […]
Go with the Flow, Rage with your Feelings!
With everything that has transpired over the past two months (it’s detailed in this post), I have learned the benefit of screaming like a demon. Sure, they tell you that this will only raise your blood pressure, give you a heart attack, make you keel over and die. But take it from someone whose BP […]
Hospitals and Heartache, Self-Care and Survival.
I ended off 2025 gloriously proclaiming that I had found my Peace, Balance and Joy (despite the usual triggers). January seemed full of exciting possibilities with all the meetings and events I had lined up, and it was going well—until the 26th that is. Things were upended (again) with my mother’s latest heart attack. For […]
The Year I Found Peace, Balance & Joy. Bye, 2025!
2025 felt smoother than the year before. Felt is the operative word. Looking back, it wasn’t without its fair share of wins, losses, realisations, acceptance—big and small. The first few months played out with the usual cast and storyline taking centre stage. If you’re new to my blog, some of my past articles such as […]
High-functioning Depression: Is Success Masking Your Struggles?
We were zipping along to our next meeting with an agency, the taxi precariously weaving through traffic, me precisely applying lipstick when my colleague quipped, “Your house can be on fire and you’ll still have lipstick on, right?” I laughed. It was true. That glossy red tube was my finishing touch—polish, perfection, and a mask […]
What It Means To Be A Glass Child at 50
Lately, there’s been some public recognition of “well” siblings like me. I read Isabelle Lee’s recent reflections in The Straits Times and CNA—written by someone much younger, and in a different situation. Her words struck a chord. Not just because they were honest but because they were familiar. Isabelle’s story reminded me of my own: […]
Can you really build boundaries with your family?
Ah, family. Manna for many, source of stress for others! There are all sorts of expectations placed on family members that we would not dare place on others. What makes it trickier is that these expectations are often unsaid, inherited or simply assumed, causing a lot of unnecessary tension within us. We desire space to […]
Just Breathe. Just Be.—Detaching Self-Worth from Success.
It has been ten years since I lost my identity. My identity as a successful, high-ranking marketer in a prestigious company. My sense of self was so entwined with my professional role that when I struggled to get back into a similar position, I was devastated and lost. At fourteen, I knew I wanted to […]
How Do You Know If You’re A Glass Child
If your sibling has a high need, does that automatically make you a Glass Child? No, it does not. If your sibling develops an illness during your adulthood, does that make you a Glass Child. No, it does not. If your parent has an illness or issues such as addiction that you had to grow […]