I don’t know if I will ever be “okay”. Well, as far as society’s definition of what “okay” means, I guess. Does okay mean never feeling down, lost, hopeless? Does okay mean living a life of perfect equilibrium, knowing that there will always be ups and downs? The downs, the sadness that I am talking […]
2022 – Done and Dusted, Bring It On 2023.
I wanted to write my year-end article more for myself than anything else. While I am trying to practice not looking back too much, I thought it would be good to capture just what a year it has been. That said, thanks to my mindfulness practices, I no longer feel compelled to pinpoint the year […]
Feeling guilty about enjoying life when it’s all crappy around you?
That’s the premise behind this year’s Birthday Musings post. I’m a little late this year, because I’ve been occupied; each month this year has seen me busy with something, and my mental health advocacy efforts have had to take a backseat. I’m also starting to ponder the future of this blog. I feel as though […]
We all have something to celebrate on International Women’s Day
Feeling lacklustre, or was it lost, I turned to one of my favourite self-care activities. Listening to a mind health podcast while vaguely sweating it out at the gym. I guess what prompted this was International Women’s Day (IWD). Looking at the many events and stories featuring amazing women, I experienced something I haven’t had […]
My Long Battle with Endometriosis
Hello! This is not an overtly mental health related post (though there are mental health implications for those who suffer from this disease), but seeing as how I have had two big surgeries to deal with endometriosis in the span of 10 years, I thought I’d share my experience in regard to this normally not […]
Doc gave you Licence to Chill. Can you?
Right. We are well into the New Year and it’s been all about my recent operation so far. On Jan 5th, I had surgery for endometriosis and to remove my swollen fallopian tubes. Might not sound like the best way to start the year, but you could also say that I was prioritising my health, […]
2021 – Ups, Downs and Everything in-between
Setting aside part deux of Covid-19 that was 2021, it was a typical year, of ups, downs and everything-in-the-middle. There were times when the force was strong in me, and my energy levels were on par with the big dreams I had. And other times, when I had so many things I wanted to do […]
Self-care vs Stress Relief – What works for long-term Mental Well-being
Chocolate cake? Long walks in the park? Chillin’ on the couch? Would those be self-care or stress relief? Hey, I’m not one to argue semantics. Really. To each their own. So I’ll just share my totally personal response. Those are Stress Relief. Self-care to me denotes something bigger than an “escape” activity. Self-care almost seems […]
Emotional Neglect – And the role your parents played.
Continuing from my last post on childhood Emotional Neglect, is this article on how it can happen in the 1st place. I first heard about the idea of Emotional Neglect during therapy last year, and have since heard it mentioned in various psychology publications. The prevalence of Emotional Neglect among Singaporeans was also discovered in […]
Emotional Neglect – Why You Need to Understand The Impact
Last year, in a bid to understand all my complex and conflicting emotions towards my “family”, my psychologist had asked me about my childhood, especially about who had supported my emotional needs. And I drew a blank. “I don’t recall talking to either parent about my issues,” was what I told her. I had started […]