Have you ever cried like your world was ending?
I have. Countless times. Since I was a teenager, without even knowing what the hell I was crying for.
When you’re young and you grow up in an environment without the kind of openness or emotional support you see on all those American TV shows where parents and kids are always talking… you grow up doing one or all of these things:
- Suppressing your emotions.
- Not knowing how to process and manage those emotions.
- Becoming very independent. Who needs parents, right?
- And maybe linked to the above point, honing your rebellious spirit.
- Not trusting others.
- Leaving before you get left. Or subconsciously thwarting your relationships.
- Giving The Hulk a good run for his money.
- Being completely misunderstood.
I’m sure there’s lots more but the last point is what I wanted to talk about.
How on earth can another person judge you or make conclusions about you when they have never understood where you’re coming from?
But then again, how can they understand if you’ve never shared either, right?
Look, it’s taken me what… 20 years? Before I can even articulate my experiences in a clear manner.
The Crying Game
Now I can understand all those crying moments, not to say that it doesn’t happen, it still strikes when something triggers me… but I can understand why I am crying, that’s a plus, I guess?
What I’m trying to say is, you may not be at the stage where you are able to express yourself clearly to those who don’t understand you / aggravate you / are plain asses but… you’ll get there.
And when you get there, you will be able to share all that makes you who you are, and if the person listening gives a rat’s ass, they will start to understand you just that little bit more.
As for those who still don’t get it or continue to act like jerks towards you, f*** them. You do not need their approval, love, etc. Stick with those who care.
Oh, and for those who want to know what happens to all those world-ending crying moments? Or how to deal with them?
Don’t. Just cry… and cry… and cry. You will stop eventually.